The Spirit In Me : The Gift Of Solitude

If nothing else, give yourself the gift of solitude.


Be Still.

Solitude is not being lonely, just the state of being alone… How often do you sit with yourself. comfortably. and quietly?  I bet not often enough.  Most of us don’t.

If you do though, you’ll feel something pretty amazing.  These quiet moments of reflection help you relax – deeply relax… they help you clear your mind and let thoughts flow through you softly.  Think of how many times a day you would love to have a minute just to concentrate on something in particular, or evaluate a situation before responding to quick?  With my little girls around me all day long, a few moments (preferably many minutes) of solitude throughout the day would work wonders for me.  Unfortunately, I don’t have a lot of time to stop throughout the day.

Instead, I do have my wake time and the time before I go to bed.  I started locking myself in my room and just sitting… waiting… patiently… until I stop fidgeting long enough to get to “that amazing moment of bliss” I like to call solitude.

It’s just me sitting quietly with my thoughts.

… and it feels pretty great.

Do you ever practice solitude?  Does it take you as long as it takes me to finally be quiet with your own thoughts?

(photo credits: 1, 2, 3 (selfie))

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Do YOU Think You Are NORMAL?

Wait… did a quote by Maya Angelou really piss me off?  YES.

When I first read it, I was pissed.  Minutes before reading it though, I had an awful conversation about “Fitting In” vs. Not “Fitting In.”  Here’s the quote that bothered me at first…


After my conversation, the word normal really started aggravating me; especially since I used it so freely.  I came to the conclusion that it’s one of the most obnoxious words in the English dictionary!  I “normal” being used for reasoning purposes in the sciences or maths since it pertains to consistency… but PEOPLE?  It’s just not relevant!

The definition of normal:

1.  usual; regular; common; typical the normal way of doing it, the normal level
2.  constituting a standard if we take this as normal

<source: Collins English Dictionary – Complete & Unabridged 2012 Digital Edition>

Seriously though, who defined the word NORMAL?  The term “REGULAR” being used to define it just makes me more angry… and then there is this: “Constituting a standard if we take this as normal.WHAT?

I guess the definition might make sense to you if you are “NORMAL,” which clearly I must NOT be according to the “Man Behind The Curtain” who made the decision about what “Normal” is… although somehow, I doubt he fits the definition either…

Maya Angelou Was Right.  Don’t ever TRY to be “just normal.”  Trying to be something or someone just so you “fit in” is not who YOU are.  When you TRY to be normal, you only fly under the radar. Your beauty and the things that make YOU shine will never be noticed if you TRY to be less than… Forget NORMAL and just BE YOU.  I know it can be hard at first, but eventually, the difficulty in living your life as your true self goes away pretty quick.  What happens next is pure joy!

Don’t ever trade in your authenticity for approval.

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Losing Yourself As A Mother

Do you believe you lose your yourself when you become a mother?  I’ve been asked that a few times and it made me angry… I made the decision to have my children, and I didn’t lose a thing when I decided to devote myself to them!  In fact, I GAINED… in so many ways I cannot count them.

This is where I insert the sappy part <I always knew people came into our lives for a reason but I never knew how much they could impact me and change me, until my girls were born>.  Today, I get to celebrate my daughter on her 8th birthday who has not only affected me, but she’s touched so many people’s hearts that I don’t even hear about some until months later.  9 years ago, my husband and I thought we could never have children… and then she happened.  I tear up thinking about the amazing ways she has helped me, loved me, and taught me so much about life in her short time here.


FEAR… and I fear… EVERY DAY… I fear that some day, she might lose the side of her that is so very special and incredible!  I fear, like every other mother who loves their child, but that doesn’t make it any easier to know.  We all put our children on a pedestal and you know what?  WE SHOULD!  They are a part of us and we are a part of them… whether they are ours biologically or not,

it’s the love that binds us.

They say a mother’s love is the strongest of all.  Whether it’s true or not, I know.  I KNOW I COULDN’T LOVE ANYTHING WITH MORE EMOTION OR PASSION THAN I DO MY GIRLS! So here’s to my incredible free-soul who has shown me more compassion and love that I have ever known!  Her beauty shines inside and out!  HAPPY 8TH BIRTHDAY TALIA!  YOU ARE MY HEART AND SOUL!


How have your children changed you? Do your emotions about your kids scare you too? I never thought I would feel this way about anyone in the world, but they just get to me in so many ways I can barely describe it! Being a mom is tough enough, but the love seems to make it harder! Do you feel the same way?

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A Course I Cannot Describe In Words

I had to write this post because I needed to tell the world how amazing the course is…

mariannewilliamsonlove350but, there were no words impactful enough to describe the course.

I started to type… then deleted what I typed… then typed again… and deleted again… This went on for a long time.  Finally I stopped completely.

A few days later I started again with this: I cannot describe the course for you. It’s something you have to experience for yourself.

The course popped into my life a long time ago but I didn’t know what to do with it.  “A Course in Miracles” is not a religion. It is a universal spiritual teaching that has changed my life.

I found the course while searching for an audiobook. I downloaded it, started listening to it… then stopped. It was dry, boring, and didn’t really make any sense to me.

A Course in Miracles states that “its goal for you is happiness and peace.” (Text, p. 241) (T-13.II.7:1) The Text also explains the basis for fear and guilt, and how they can be overcome through miracles, which are defined as maximal “expressions of love.” The miracle is defined as the shift in perception from fear to love. (source:

About a year later, the course started popping into my life in different ways. Whether a quote I read, or somebody mentioning the course, it would creep up on me when I least expected it, which was intriguing.  Checking out at a bookstore, a cashier had “A Course in Miracles” in her hand. Someone ordered it and decided not to buy it… So I did.

The book was no better than the audiobook <initially>. I read a few pages and put it down.

It wasn’t until I listened to “Being In Light, Lectures based on A Course In Miracles” by Marianne Williamson that it started to make sense. The audiobook became the only thing I could think of for days. I’d listen to it every chance I got. When I finished it After The first time I finished it, I picked up “A Course In Miracles” and began…
… for as the course says in the Preface:ix,

“At the end, the reader is left in the hands of his or her own Internal Teacher, Who will direct all subsequent learning as He sees fit.”

Whether you decide the course is for you or not (yet), I urge you to take a peek!
The Book: Course in Miracles: Combined Volume
The E-Book (you can even get a sample for free): A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume E-Book

If you already do the course, I want to hear from you!!!

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One Thing You Must Do For YOU

The single most important thing you have to do for you.

definingyourselfIt’s easy to let people sway you, shape you, and change your mind.  It’s even easier when you want to be a people pleaser, avoid controversy, or simply think it’s easier to just go with the flow whether your heart wants it or not.

It’s just as easy to be authentic and define yourself on your own terms. The hard part is when you let others dictate who you are or who you should be… and then wake up one morning and realize you made that mistake.

YOU are truly the best version of YOU.

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Self Discovery: Seeing The World Through Beautiful Eyes

Would you rather live in a world saturated in color or simple and layered with texture?thespiritinme2

The Bohemian Way…

I have forgiven; I have sent positive thoughts to people who have hurt me; I have learned.  By doing this, I am not only being the person I want to be, I am no longer holding on to the negative feelings I had for other people, and the weight I held from those stresses. Instead, I let them go… into the universe, and it feels great!

As hard as it can be to forgive, the weight lifted from your shoulders when you do feels amazing. Forgiveness means moving on and letting go.  Nobody deserves to feel angry and resentful about something that cannot be changed.  It doesn’t mean you condone what’s been done or forget that it ever happened.

Forgiveness is about YOU.

It’s allowing yourself to see the world through beautiful eyes again… It’s about taking care of yourself and releasing what weighs you down.  Why should you suffer for what someone else did to you.

“I live my life by the ideals of truth and love, gracefully walking with joy as I am guided by my feelings.”
- Shivani Cotter

(image sources: 1, 2, 3)

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Working On Vacation?

I’ve been meaning to write a profound post this week.  Instead, I gave you mediocrity… but I am not sorry.


It started with our mini-vacation.  I promised my girls that they would not see mommy work during it.  I kept my promise.  After they went to bed each night, I quickly grabbed my computer, caught up on a few emails and posted an itty bit on social media.  It felt great!

I recently read something along the lines of  “Live Today All-In.”  It resonated.  I have lived each day, ALL-IN!  When I am with my kids, they get 100% of me.  When I am working (which clearly hasn’t been much), I give it 100%.  Essentially, I’ve been focused on “just being” – quite literally.  I don’t know if I have seen my kids happier in a long time (ok, so that was really hard to write/share with the world)… but, I am glad I can see the difference being “truly present” makes on those around me and how good it makes me feel.  Multi-tasking and I never got along too well, but changing my ways made me realize how many of the “little moments” I treasure were getting lost in the shuffle each day.

I’d love to know how you spend/juggle your time!  Are you a multi-tasker or do you prioritize your time and try to fully engage in each thing you do?

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FREE Printables Are Ruining My Life

In search of the best Printable for your blog design, family chores, organizing needs, menu planner, productivity woes or even worse, life planner?  Look no further!

Seriously, STOP LOOKING!

Free Printables are everywhere

printableforthattooFree Printables are everywhere, and there are too many to choose from!  Your search for the perfect printable could lead to a whole day of navigating the internet only to find a slew of NEW printables you “need” to fulfill your primary goal… (which I have never done)

Whether it’s the wide array of colors or fonts that make me yearn for the Next Best Printable, it’s a problem I am facing.  We are feeding the FREE PRINTABLE world from every angle.  Even when you’re looking for blog advice or how to gain readership, one of the typical answers from blog advisors is to offer “free printables” on your site (in fact, there is probably a free printable just for that).  Trust me, free printables do get me to your site… often… and they don’t have me going back for more of your content… in fact, I rarely read your content because the words “FREE PRINTABLE” send shock waves from my brain to my fingers, which force them to click on the “Download Now” button before I’ve read the heading of your post.

Are you as obsessed with Printables as I am?  How do you feel about the amount of Printables offered today?  Do they make you add certain blogs to your “must read” list or do you really just like the sites for their printables?  I’d love to know your thoughts!

#TRUTHS Shivani

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Self-Discovery: The Spirit In Me

These images not only speak to me, they remind me to be mindful of myself.  Each board represents a piece of “the journey of me…

Not just a mood board.  It’s summer and as much as I love the warmth of the sun and the concept of being able to relax and enjoy my days, it can be hard to do.  After a long day of “the usual” chauffeur business I run that I have yet to be paid for, I sat down to my computer and started browsing.  Instead of “work” per se, I found myself on my favorite platform, PINTEREST.  Yes, I am a total glutton for Pinning away.

Tonight for some reason, I found myself lost in pictures reminding me of Fall (my favorite season), and dreaming of a yummy cup of coffee, reading my favorite magazines and loving all the rich colors that photograph so well.

Oh Fall, how I miss you already… but Dear Summer, while you are still here, I am going to embrace the smell of the salt air by our beaches, my children’s laughter while playing outside, and the adventures we still have to take while we are without “real responsibilities.”

(image sources: 1 2 3)

What is your favorite time of year?  Are you as excited for Fall as I am?

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Ok, so I keep going back and forth about RE-BRANDING.  I know we’ve been here before but this is the end of “that” road.  It’s actually happened.  Yes, I officially went with my GUT and re-branded my site.

No longer do I have to live up to a name that doesn’t convey who I am.  So here I am, which is exactly where I want you to be… Daring.To.Be.

The best part is… YOU get to fill in the blanks!  There is so much power in being vulnerable and being honest, even if it makes people uncomfortable.

The choice is yours… Will you Dare.To.Be. With Me?

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