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Precious life

Watching the news yesterday (April 15th, 2013, The Boston Marathon Massacre), I felt a surge of emotion like many others.  Life is short.  I cannot express my immediate thoughts.  They seemed all over the place.  I didn’t know how many people were injured or dead, but did know that many of my friends were there watching.  I, like many others, felt helpless.  Watching the news was not easy at all!  Pictures shown were that of runners, families, young children and groups of friends.  It was mass chaos.  

I needed to get away from the TV and clear my head.  Since I had some errands to run, I decided to take a trip to Target.  I dropped off my daughters at my parents house for a visit.  As I drove out of their driveway, the girls smiled and waved goodbye to me.  I started to cry.  It’s not like that was the moment I realized how precious our time together was, but that moment defined much more for me which I can barely explain.  It was something deeper.  An unexplainable feeling that exists between mother and child.  Something that cannot be seen or heard.  It’s simply internal and strong.

Target was quiet.  There were about 20 customers in the store.  While walking through the isles, every time I heard someone talking, it was about The Boston Marathon bombing.  I quickly moved through each aisle, desperately wanting to get out of there.  I kept imagining the look on my daughters faces as I drove away.  I couldn’t get their beautiful smiles out of my mind as they waved goodbye.  I began thinking it would be the last time I saw them.  At any given moment, we could lose the ones we love.  At any given moment, our lives could end.  It is time to stop thinking about what could be though.  It is time to GENUINELY start living for today and enjoying what we have in front of us.

Yesterday, April 15th, 2013, is proof that something tragic could happen at any given moment.  It should be a catalyst for all of us to start living!  Our lives should be spent doing what we enjoy.  Time with our families should be our first priorities.  Laughing and loving should encompass the majority of our daily lives.  

Yesterday, April 15th, 2013 made me realize how happy I was that I no longer worked at my old company.  I was miserable.  I could not stand how unfairly people were treated. I could not stand the office politics and favoritism.  I could not stand the office bullying.  I could not stand that when we had a surge of business and hired multiple people. Each new face I saw, I felt bad for.  In my heart, I knew that the majority of new faces would be let go the moment business slowed.  I could not stand that they did not realize their jobs may have been short-lived, and that they were being viewed as a number and not as people.

Yesterday, April 15th, 2013 reminded me to start living for me.

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Does your job define you?

A little Pinterest find reminded me of a little something I almost forgot. After my recent divorce (from my job), each day has been a new adventure as well as emotionally charged! I consistently question my decisions, and wonder what the future holds for me. During this experience, I have felt empowered, nervous, creative, scared, fortunate and free. Although conflicted at times, it takes little things like the quote below to remind me about my mission and why I am a writer.

Don’t let your job define you. Define your job!

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Anything Could Happen

It’s past midnight and I am wide awake.  I have two options…

(1) watch tv, or

(2) write.

I chose the latter because it comes with a grand pair of headphones (although I must settle for “almost grand” headphones since Cooper ate my favorite ones), and of course, amazing music.  For the past week and a half, I spent most of my days on a seesaw (at least that is what it felt like).

Finally, the seesaw stopped going up and down and I got off.  Although a difficult decision, I made it, and chose to end a chapter in my life.  I left the company I had been with for five years.  For more than a week, I had contemplated whether I was making the right decision or not.  Fortunately, I was able to contemplate at home.  Finally, the decision was made.  Although I loved my job, it was time for me to make a change.  Oddly enough, I thought that I would feel much worse about the outcome.  The opposite happened though.  I have never felt so free and invigorated in my life.  There are so many things that I am ready to do, looking forward to, and smiling ear to ear as I think about each one.

Going back to the first paragraph in this post… the music… the minute I put my headphones on and started writing this post, the song came on… Take a listen :)
Anything Could Happen
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Best Stocking Stuffer For Desktop Management

Who would have thought that the Quirky Cordies Desktop Cable Management for power cords and charging accessory cables were one of the most sought after items on everyone’s Christmas list? I didn’t, but did buy them anyhow! Did I mention they are UNDER $10.00 and will be one of my many Secret Santa gifts this year!

More colors are available.  I just happened to think these looked pretty together :)

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My Morning Cup Of Joe…

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And things that make me go… or not…

Just being is hard enough… Add a full-time job, a part-time job (writing), humanitarian efforts, motherhood, being a wife, and simply trying to have a life into the equation, and you might end up like me… exhausted!  For years, I chose to ignore what I saw every night; my tired face looking in a mirror.  After writing about my love of audiobooks, I finally decided to face the facts.  A few years ago, I never would have spoken of an audiobook.  My love of books, feeling the pages, writing in them and absorbing each read is too strong!  As much as I like my audiobooks, I still love the feeling of holding a book in hand.  Unfortunately, that has become a rarity since my eyes are too weak to read in the evening (the only down time I seem to have).

An average day in the life of me!  Here’s the skinny:

  1. When I wake up in the morning, feeling like P-diddy (like how I incorporated the song Tik Tok?  Call me a dork)… K, back to the song… When I wake up in the morning UNLIKE P-diddy, all I want to do is crawl back into bed… instead, I have no choice but to get up (after hitting the snooze button of course).
  2. Generally, I let the dogs out, and then back in.
  3. Moments later, my computer starts calling my name…
  4. I check my schedule for the day, answer some emails and try to write a bit.
  5. By now, it’s time to wake up the girls.
  6. We gather in the kitchen and I make them breakfast.
  7. After breakfast, I take a quick shower and then get the girls ready for drop off.  During summer vacation, I don’t have to deal with drop offs but still get them ready.
  8. I grab my morning cup of Joe and… off to work I go.  At work, my day is filled with… drum roll please… work.
  9. At some point during the day/afternoon, I either pick up the girls from school, or wherever they may be.
  10. Once home, I feed the dogs, feed the kids, feed myself, then feed myself again, and again (kidding).
  11. The girls and I do some reading and writing before I put them to bed.
  12. Once in bed, the second part of my day begins.  By now, it’s usually 8pm.
  13. I pick up the house, get into my pajamas and head straight for my computer.
  14. This is when I write, design websites, do some social networking and then write some more.
  15. Around 11:30/midnight, I turn off my computer and head for bed, iPad in hand.
  16. This is when I do a little research for my blog and have the opportunity to read (ok, so I should really say be read to).
  17. Sometime around 1:00am or so, I usually fall asleep, headphones still on… 3:00am comes pretty quick… that is when I usually wake up to burning ears and in need of a bathroom break before falling back to sleep.
  18. 6:30am… my alarm goes beeeeeeep… buzzzzzz…. beeeeeeep… buzzzzz… then, I hit snooze.

Although I would love to do nothing more than sleep my day away once in a while, the moments I have time off are better spent with my family… awake.  Below, are a list of things that keep me going… as a mother, wife, corporate executive, writer, humanitarian and tired lover of life…
First, my Stainless Steel Travel Coffee Press by Bodum(R) 3.5 cup

Next, my Opportunity Rocks Headphones in Hardwood

Because everyone should have a fantastic pair of headphones!

My Slow and Tell Clock always keeps me on time (my time that is)

What no girl should ever be without… Store Trooper USB Flash Drive in R2-D2(Geekette? “Who Me?”)

A perfect little Through the Post Clutch for running quick errands and when I don’t want to carry my maMMoth of a bag!

A girl definitely cannot live without her chocolate! My preference, Dylan’s Candy Bar Malted Milk!

MMMMM… Chocolate… I could go on forever about my morning cup of Joe and the things that make me go… but chocolate is now calling my name… until next time… xoxo

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Working Mom Vs. Mom

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Today’s Flummery… Working Mom Vs. Mom (“Just Be A Mom”)

Obnoxious Woman:  “Oh, so you are a working mom?  Wouldn’t you rather just be a mom?”
Me:  “Excuse me???” 
Obnoxious Woman:  “Well, I mean, you work full-time. You probably can’t be at every important event, right?”
Me:  “I’m not sure I like where this conversation is going.  Let’s switch the topic, shall we?”

Perplexed, I wondered, since when does being a working mom mean that I am not “just being a mom?’  What does “just be a mom” really mean anyways?  I came to only one conclusion… Obnoxious lady must not have children. 

Rather than switching the topic, as I had politely requested, she continued…

Obnoxious Woman:  “Your children must miss you so much!”
Me:  Smiling, I simply said “I think my children and I are just fine thanks.”

What I really wanted to do, was curse the lady up and down.  How dare anyone make comments like that!  How dare anyone criticize me without being able to back it up!  How dare… Then, I did what any other rational person would do… I took a deep breath, turned around, and walk away… far, far away.  If I didn’t do that, I would have punched her in the face.  Fortunately, my meditation sessions must be working in my favor.
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Mom Planners Agendas And Calendars

Between my husband, two children and two dogs, I have a hard time keeping track of each of our schedules.  I have toggled between different types of planners/agendas as well as calendar apps on my computer and iPhone.  Although I love the digital world we live in, there is still something to be said about writing down appointments, important notes and activities. 

Although I like having my digital calendar up to date, I am a visual person.  Being able to sift through pages and determine the best options for plans and appointments in a physical calendar seems to work.  I love being able to write down daily tasks, to do lists, and daily accomplishments.  My planner/agenda is filled with concert tickets, postcards, invitations and other memorable things.  I even use it as a diary to jot down the little things my daughters say and do!

With so many family members, and things to keep track of, I love planners that are geared towards moms the most.  In my search for the perfect planner, and slight obsession with buying at least a few a year, I finally found one that is suitable for all my needs.  Daytimer created a Portable or Desk version of a Mom Planner which is absolutely adorable.  It has all the bells and whistles I look for.  I prefer the Portable Mom Planner because I can take it with me everywhere.  They even havve a Student Planner which can be purchased as a Portable or Desk version as well!  Love these!  They are truly a “must have” and come in a bunch of great colors!  Check them out!
                                               

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The Cyber World Blues

The past few days, I have had strange emotions spinning around in my head…  It’s like an odd combination of a bad cup of coffee, loneliness, feeling bloated and quite honestly, a little depressed.  Doing everything I could, from writing… and writing… and writing, to reading, to meditating, to cooking (I know, right…), and more.  Don’t get me wrong, I like to cook, but the recipes I recently took on were a bit out of the ordinary, and quite honestly, tasted awful! Then it hit me!  I wasn’t depressed!  I couldn’t be lonely.  I rarely have any time on my own. It’s not that time of the month, therefore, no, not PMS. Don’t go there with the menopause either.  Mind out of the gutter please!  I am hoping for many more years before that bad mama comes to get me!  I had the cyber world blues!  :(

I suppose it had to happen at some point.  We all feel it.  There are days we attract the masses, and others less.  I remember reading a book about it once.  The writer stated something to the effect that the World Wide Web could be a lonely place.  I never thought I would believe the writer (I realize I am supposed to note who the writer I am referring to is, but I really don’t remember).  Do they have cyber psychologists for stuff like this?  

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Why is the stay-at-home vs. working moms debate so passionate?

Regardless of whether you are a stay-at-home mother or you have a full-time job, we all have a few things in common. We are all mothers. Our hopes and dreams for our children are very similar, and the reasoning behind the choices we make are driven by our personal situations.

Although being passionate about what we do should be the main focus, it seems many mothers are too engrossed in trying to defend their decisions or justifying what they do. The reality is, each of us does what we have to. Whether it be financial, or quite possibly maintaining our own sanity, that drives whether we stay at home, or work, one should not have to explain themselves and the decision they make.

I had the luxury of living both lives. My reasoning for returning to work was financial, but a few interesting things happened when I did. Initially, I found myself feeling ample amounts of guilt. As the first year of returning to work progressed, I realized there were some benefits to it from a different side. My organization skills were much better, I was a lot more scheduled and the time I spent with my daughters was cherished even more so. On the other hand, when I stayed at home, I loved the attention I was able to give my girls. Maintaining the house on a daily basis and not devoting errands to the weekends was a luxury. Clearly there are many more benefits I can state about both, being a stay-at-home mother as well as a working mother. Regardless of which one chooses (or not), in the end, we are all mothers who love our children, and should respect one another for that alone.

This post was written as a response to a Circle Of Moms Question asked.  You can view the question at http://www.circleofmoms.com… or my widget…

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